Toxic masculinity and truth

Toxic masculinity, when generally applied to men, is unwarranted and dangerous. Whilst the lessons of history are that men can do awful things (viz. rape, domestic violence) and those behaviours need to change - nobody disagrees with that - to accuse all men of such behaviours and generally view them as toxic is wrong. It is one of the major reasons for the downward spiral of population growth statistics in Western countries; the fact that some 60% of young men are shying away from relationships and marriage, as against 30% of young women; and the anger and hatred generated amongst young women towards young men. The problem is well put in the following video:

Why male bashing is quietly backfiring and society is starting to feel it, Jenny's Wisdom, 6 September, YouTube, duration: 23.54 minutes. AI.

So why are young men at the rate of 6 out of 10 in the Western world rejecting the idea of having a relationship with the woman, as against the percentage for women being about 3 out of 10? One thought the present writer had, prior to viewing the aforementioned video, was that, if men are seeing that women are rejecting the idea of being feminine and exhibiting in part the traditional feminine role, then men, being as sensitive as the other sex, are feeling that they do not want to be with someone who is not going to be feminine, and in fact is going to look to express the male aspects of their character. Sure, this can be called sexist, or the results of sexism, but the fact is it goes against traditional (i.e., normal) norms. The irony here is that young women are rejecting the very thing they expect from males, namely, to be masculine, such as being strong and protective. In taking on the general belief in toxic masculinity, they are in fact throwing the baby out with the bath water, as those masuline elements are also demonised. Sure, the defense is that mysogyny and patriarchy are the enemies, and to be reasonable that is fair. However, not all men are naturally mysogynistic or patriarchal. To eliminate and subvert the feminine side of their character is to do damage both to self and to the possibility of long-term loving relationships with the opposite sex. One of the reasons is that men are traditionally attracted to women because Of the femininity. That female "femininity" includes not just the physical aspects, but all those individual and unique elements of a personality. People might say, "Oh yeah, you're just attracted to her because of her good looks!" but a true relationship is built not around simply physical attraction, but around an inclusive mental / spiritual / psychological attraction. It is a fact that men are driven by testosterone, and that testosterone drives them to want to have a physical relationship with women, the outcome of which can be children. And that is incredibly important. But the other element that drives men to engaged with women on a more long-term basis is something that is not often talked about, and that is intimacy. Now intimacy isn't just about having sex; intimacy is about having a deep connection with another, that goes beyond the connection you have with say your best friend. It is similar in a way to the relationship between a parent and child - one of deep, everlasting love. That intimacy. And it's very different, but it's on that same level of intensity. Hwew we are talking about an intimate partnership between a male and a females, because this is the issue here, the primary way in which the human population expands and develops is through a traditional relationship between men and women, where a man and woman fall in love. This is the ideal of course - they fall in love and they have a family. Now we have not only the problem of, as I said at the outset of young men not wanting to have relationships with young women. But we also have the related problem of population decreases acress Western Society. In other societies such as Islamic societies, where men are dominant due to inherrent misogyny, there is an ongoing rise because man are able to have 4 wives; women are forced to marry at a young age and expected to have at least 4 children. Therefore the Islamic population amongst acros the world, and in similar societies is rapidly increasing. But in Western societies we've got this real problem where the populations are stable, if not decreasing, as in South Korea, Australia, Japan, and across Europe. It is not mentioned in many of the present discussions that men are scared of approaching women who have abandoned the feminine aspects of who they are for a more masculine persona. The fact is that men are turned off and are scared. If women are being taught that there's something wrong with femininity and you have to be more male, then that is likely the core of the problem.

theunfilteredguy, 2030 prediction: The male exodus will wipe out billions from the economy, theunfilteredguy, 8 October 2026, YouTube, duration: 21.03 minutes.

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References

Jenny's Wisdom, Why male bashing is quietly backfiring and society is starting to feel it, Jenny's Wisdom, 6 September, YouTube, duration: 23.54 minutes. AI.

theunfilteredguy, 2030 prediction: The male exodus will wipe out billions from the economy, theunfilteredguy, 8 October 2026, YouTube, duration: 21.03 minutes.

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Last updated: 11 October 2026

Michael Organ, Australia